You are not alone and one step you can take right now to get past your moment and get out of your grief.
So your current situation is a fact, alright, that’s not a question. Your current situation is a fact. You have to be in alignment with what is real and your reality.
You have to get out of thinking I’m not in grief. I’m not in pain if you’re laying in bed, if you’re doing things that you wouldn’t normally do if you don’t feel 100% yourself, then acknowledge that okay recognize if that’s where you are, even though you can’t change your past.
You can change your future by taking action in the present. So the present is today right now as you’re watching this video. You are watching this video in the present.
Remember it is a process to get over your grief. It’s not going to happen overnight. You’re not going to be one day you wake up and then boom you’re feeling better. There is a process and I’m going to give you one step you can take right now to walk through your grief to freedom process.
Step 1
Think about everything you did yesterday, write it all down, write down what you ate, what you drank and if you can remember anything about how you felt. Write that down also.
Step 2
Then what I want you to do is circle one thing that you didn’t like about what you did and write why you don’t like it.
Example: So say you laid in bed until 10 am and you planned to get up at 8 am. Circle that and then write why you didn’t like.
Step 3
Now write out what you going to do instead.
Example: Yesterday, I woke up at 10 a.m, and I really wanted to wake up at 8am. I thought I hit the snooze button, but instead I turned the alarm off and I didn’t wake up until 10 am. I don’t like this because I was rushing to get everything done and I didn’t have enough time to do my morning exercise which caused me to have low energy throughout the day. Tonight I’m going to set my alarm for 7:30 a.m, and get out of bed no later than 8 am, so I can do my morning exercise and not feel rushed.
Now, I want you to do that every day for the next 40 days. Keeping with the same example, I want you to get up out of bed at 8 every day if that’s the time you say you’re going to get out of bed. That action changes your present.
When you focus on changing something that you did in the past, and actually change it in the present, that affects your future because now your tomorrow will be better because you did what you said you were going to do and you did it how you said you were going to do it.
That’s the one thing you can do broken down in 3 simple steps to get you on your grief to freedom journey.
Now you’ve got to figure out what you going to do tomorrow that is different from today.
This is where your new normal is.
This is how you get out of the moment, by making conscious decisions to change your tomorrow, and by making those decisions today.
Declaration: Today I’m going to do X differently.
After you write out your declaration and say it aloud to yourself I then want you to go do X differently the next opportunity you get.
The action is what is most important. This is about your present and this is about your future. When you do this, you’re honoring your past, you’re honoring your loved one, you’re honoring the person you were and the person you are becoming because you’re making the changes and you’re following the process.
I’m praying for you.
You are not alone.
If you need additional support and guidance in this area I would love to assist. I offer one on one and grief group coaching. All the information can be found here.